Anton’s mother and father separated when he was a baby and his father gradually withdrew from his life.
As he grew, Anton was also emotionally and physically rejected by his mother. His bedroom was a tiny room with no windows, little more than a cupboard. He received no love, warmth or care. Humiliatingly, school had to provide him with breakfast, a shower and fresh clothes every morning.
Anton started getting into trouble of escalating seriousness, as a result of which he was taken into care when he was 13. Because he was so troubled, he came straight to us. Our experience of him was that he was angry and destructive. He could show no emotional warmth, and was cut off from his peers.
We focused initially on providing a safe, emotionally containing home, full of the warmth and love he had never known. Only an expert therapeutic home can safely offer such a disturbed and disturbing child the attention and warmth which every child needs.
Therapy began more specifically to address the trauma of Anton’s neglect. Together with the warmth and containment of home life, and the relationships he began to develop with others, Anton began to feel that he might matter to other people. And this allowed Anton to begin to feel that his life might also matter to him.
Anton’s violence and destruction decreased. He developed the ability to enjoy and communicate a wider range of emotion. He began to attend education in our therapeutic school. Education was always a struggle, but Anton eventually completed his GCSEs and went on to college to study mechanical engineering.
When he left us at 17, Anton went into semi-independent accommodation and completed his college course and further studies. He is now working, enjoying life and is independent.
He knows how proud we are of him, and is in regular touch.